- Christine Forest, M.D.
- Los Angeles, California
- I have initially created the Better Than Cured Guide to Healing and Happiness to help patients in my psychiatric private practice who were suffering from anxiety and depression. My goal was not only to help them get well, but beyond that, to also help them find a viable path to a happier life. They were loosing any hope that they can ever be healthy and happy again. They were amazed when they did it. If hundreds of my patients could do it, so can you, my dear reader. I hope their stories of courage and success will empower you to reinvent yourself and rekindle the hope that your life too can be better and that your pain can be healed. Set your life course on a "better than cured" path that leads to your own profound and personal journey to healing and happiness. For more information about my medical career and my private practice, please visit my web site at drforest.com.
Monday, January 4, 2010
The "Feeling Lost" Disorder
This is a clover trail marker of the Clover Creek Trail, in Sequoia National Park. You can copy it and place it in a visible place, a reminder of the paths that are always there, even when you think you feel so stuck that you can't see, for a split moment, any way out. The truth is, a good way out is always there... Can you see it?
Do you have friends who keep saying they will do something that in reality they never do? For example, they could be saying "We always wanted to go to Paris. That would be lovely," yet every time they book their vacations, they invariably choose Chicago. Or have you heard of someone who is married for ages but always talks about divorce every time she is asked whether or not she is happy in her marriage--never divorcing, never even having an affair?
If you know people like this, you should know that they are not the exceptions but rather the norm. Often people dream of something they don't have or they would rather have, without taking any action to make that happen, and, of course, without ever being happy with what they already have. These people tend to be seriously disconnected from themselves and often very unhappy. Often people chasing the ghosts of unfulfilled dreams realize at some point they are feeling, in fact, lost in their own lives.
Whenever one of my patients starts talking about these never happening fantasy, I remind them that they are doing nothing to change. The general feeling that they are wasting their lives one way or another is, in general, prevalent.
Making new plans and getting ready to change will pave their way toward fulfilment and ultimately happiness. Using for guidance the often ignored post signs pointing them in the right direction, or the mild nudges from their best friends, they can find their way to either love what they already have or change to what will make them happier and more alive.
The good news for people suffering from the "feeling lost" disorder, is that better ways to live one's life are always available. Just open your eyes, look carefully around, expand your horizon, try a few new things and you will find your trail.
As a remainder that the right path for you is never lost, just hidden, I will give you a small gift. A talisman, rather: