“Try again,” I encouraged TGWCSN. She thought for another moment and finally said: “I can’t go with you because I am a lesbian.” “Wroooong!” came again the group’s reaction. “If you say that, he will be even more turned on. He will tell you to invite your partner and have a threesome!” We then discussed about how to use the intricacies of English language to convey politely but firmly what she thinks, even though it isn’t what the other person would like to hear. For example, she could make a joke and say “Your invitation may be tempting but I always drive myself home.” (And ladies, I hope you do. Always secure your own ride home so you don’t depend on anyone when you feel it’s time to leave.) Or she could say: “I am terribly sorry that you are not at all my type.” If you need to, my dear reader, you can formulate and practice your own favorite rejection tune, but never ever hesitate to use it if needed. Finally, TGWCSN got the idea. Practicing saying “no” became her 2010 resolution.
“I have great sex with my boyfriend now, but when we get married, can we still have good sex ten, fifteen or more years after that?” Why not? You just use your imagination. If you don’t encourage having sex with your partner, it may never happen as we are constantly engaged in the whirlwind of life. So, never give up on sex, no matter how many years you are married.
Bora Bora--Breakfast served at the hut. In bora Bora you could order breakfast in your room, hut in this case, and it is delivered to you by outrigger. And this is what our neighbors, a "Just Married" Japanese couple, decided to do that morning.